Category: self-control

Do You Need It?

“Have nothing to do with stupid and senseless controversies; you know that they breed quarrel.” 2 Timothy 2: 23

When you decide to keep cool in the midst of conflict, it does not mean that you are a dummy who cannot fight. It simply means that you are wise to know how to avoid trouble.

It is the same when dealing with people. You need to understand that not everybody will be able to understand things the way you do. This is why you need to be very careful with what comes out of your mouth.

You may say something and another person will read different meaning to it. They will go on to accuse you of being a problem and before you know it, they will start quarrelling with you.

Now, I implore you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to be very, very cautious when you talk.

  • In fact, you should only talk where it is relevant and needful.
  • Be careful what you say.
  • Think thoroughly before letting the words out of your mouth
  • Be spiritually conscious all the times.

I pray that the Lord will help you more in your Christian life so that you will live the pleasing life require of you, amen.


The Art of Silence

“If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain.” James 1:26

I want you to understand that it is good to talk BUT it is a disaster to talk too much.  When you are in the midst of people, you must know that you are not the only one talking. For when you begin to talk and talk, without leaving any chances for others to talk, then you are in a big problem.

People with you may take it that you are just trying to dominate the conversation when you talk too much. There are those who will even say this openly to you so that they can let you know their feelings toward you.

Another back setback about talking too much is that you can end up saying what you are not supposed to say. This will just pop out of your mouth and if what you said is about someone in your group, then you create chances for enemy in your life.

One other point is by talking too much, you can begin to fabricate lies upon lies in order to boost your egos. When people are listening to you, there is every means that you will find their attentiveness too inviting and to make them listen the more, you begin to lie, telling them things that are not true.  By this, you ended up sinning.

Too much of talking is not good especially for a Christian. You are the embodiment of Christ and you must show this in your attitude. There is no place in the bible that says Jesus Christ is a talkative. During His life on earth, He listened to people, paid attention to their words and waited until they have finished before He answered them.

You must avoid any temptation when in conversation with other people. Listen to them the more. Make it your duty to listen and listen about 70% of your time and make the 30% worthwhile when talking. Do not be happy to fabricate lies because it is not going to get you anywhere.

Flee from being a talkative. There is no way the Holy Spirit of God will use you when you don’t know how to keep your mouth shut.  Master the art of silence as if it is your last lesson on earth. By doing this, you are progressing in your Christian life and you are glorifying the name of the Lord.



“Be not hasty in thy sight to be angry; for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.” Ecclesiastes 7:9

There is no doubt that anyone is prone to anger in a day. You are likely to be upset regarding any situation. It may be in your place of work, at your home, with a friend or within your group.
I want to let you know that you have every right to express your feeling. There is no need bottling up your emotion when you are supposed to expose it.

Anger is great because sometimes, it helps you to solve a delicate situation, it makes the other person to understand you and let them know where you belong.

You may be angry with your spouse, your children, your parents, your siblings, your friends, your colleagues, your partner, even a stranger.

But the Bible says you must master the art of self-control. That’s what the above verse means.

When you are able to control your emotion, then you are a leader to your life and that means you are capable of controlling your life without needing the help of a church, psychological or medical counsellor.

Do not be a fool as described above by extending your anger beyond the reasonable limits. Train your emotion to suit God’s will for your life.

If you are having difficulty in developing your self-control, which I knew many people suffer too, then ask the Hold Ghost of God to help you. He is able to do exceedingly above all that you can ever ask of or imagine.

He will help you because that’s why He is in your life and He wants you to come to Him, to bring your emotions to Him, for refine.

The single truth is you cannot handle anger alone except with the help of the Holy Ghost.

You know what? Once upon a time, I was a classified hot-temper person. Oops! There was absolutely nothing you can tell me that could change my mind then whenever I was angry. Then I must do what I set out to do in my fury. But the end results were so devastating and not comforting. It was tormenting!

Anger, used on the negative side is able to break lots of great relationship, bond, and friendship or causes you to sin against God if you are not careful. Do not allow it to be too late. Get down on your knees and tell God to change you.

That’s exactly what I did. Today, I not only have the self-control, I learnt as well to overlook issues while try as much as possible to maintain my Christ-image.
Get down on your knees; I implore you, before it’s too late.


Princess Ayelotan
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