I was raised by a mother who did everything she could to make me and my siblings hate my father. Clearly, ‘hate’ is a big word and perhaps, you would have preferred the term ‘dislike’ instead. My mother’s speech, reactions and actions when my father was around or not, made her the best of all the mothers. She created her perfect model at the cost of her family.
I have heard many situations like mine, especially when the fathers no longer live in the house. Unhappily, the mothers’ gestures to bring themselves to the good side always end in grave consequences when the children grow up.
One day, I had a conversation with my father about the household. He said he would not have left home if he had had peace of mind. He bore his own faulty part of the broken affair. However, anyone who spends considerable time with my mother, would have known he or she is meeting a fire. Some of her friends call her ‘Iron lady’. It is not an issue being a disciplinarian. What becomes a problem is when one cannot maintains limitation. This can destroy relationships either consciously or the other direction.
Abigail was a smart woman. She really valued her social life. She respected her dignity. Wisdom saved Abigail from being massacred alongside Nabal. Women who manage their lives through Godly wisdom preserve immense happiness for themselves and those in their lives. It is not wisdom, not just for women, but also for men, to always want to have the last words.
The day I realised the need to block my mother’s unpleasant characters was the day I found myself advising my younger sister not to treat her husband and children in the same way our mother did. I hope by doing so to prevent any unwanted vicious circles in our lives.
Many Christians are forced to question their faith in God in the face of injustice. They wonder why the Lord does not intervene sooner. Many demands change before they cross the line of no returns. That line is revenge.
Injustice can destroy a man’s life and all his existence. Injustice can create the worst or perhaps a monster out of a good person. Injustice can cause a believer to sin against the Almighty.
When the enemies keep maintaining the upper hands, they can settle within their minds that they are doing the right things. They hold on to that mentality that nothing can happen to them. In fact, it is not surprising to see or hear the adversaries justify their evil acts through quoting the words of God.
David could have killed Saul when those chances arose. However, David was a good man with a kind heart. It is no surprise he is referred to as the ‘man after God’s own heart’.
Christ does not say the Christian journey will be a smooth one. But he promised to always help us in time of troubles (John 14:1, John 17:15). Also He assures us not to take revenge for ourselves (Romans 12:19).
It is by far relaxing when God takes over your situation than when you choose to handle it on your own. This is the alternative; to step aside from the wrongs people did to you and let Jehovah fight for you.
You may carry out the revenge and not gain anything from it. You may ended up being frustrated than ever or even ended up with deeper troubles for this. But when God takes over, He does not do any uncomplicated jobs because He will finish it thoroughly (1 Samuel 31:2).
Only way to let Him is first for you to STOP talking about it. Pray to the Lord. Open your heart to Him. They step away completely. Be rest assured He will take over after giving you His peace that surpasses all human understanding.
Be blessed !