Learn to pray for yourself, and by yourself. The pastors to whom you are running during your crises, are human beings just like you. That means they have personal problems, too. The bottom line is that these are not your saviour.
Often, private prayers help you draw closer to Jehovah than what you refer to as corporate prayers. Besides, the more you run to these so-called pastors, the more you exposed your personal life, and anything spoken out cannot be taken aback. People will respect you if they do not know who you are.
Therefore, be disciplined and learn to talk to God in prayers. Avoid going to any pastors or whoever to pray for you. Pray on your own, and God will answer you.