Posted in Book of 11 Corinthians, Comforter, compassionate, death, God, God's love, worship

Doses of ‘Why’ and Pain

Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.” 2 Corinthians 1:4

My 3 months old niece passed away in the early morning of the 31st December 2016, which is just two days ago. I was about 6000 kilometres from her and her family, but I shared my family’s loss.

She, her elder sister and their mother, who is my younger sister was spending the festive week at my mother’s house where it happened.

My niece was hale and hearty. They woke up to find her gone. I asked myself why infants die young when I carried out my investigation concerning SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). The results were not fascinating. Mixed feelings did further drain me , saddened and spent the new year eve as well as the new year day bombarded

While I pondered on my doses of pain and why; on the other side of the Atlantic, my family members were partaking their own doses of pain. There was my mother who even till now refuses to get over it as she embraced unfounded self-guilt. The fact that her youngest grandchild died in HER house was traumatic. She kept asking, “why”.

As for my sister; her deceased daughter was not her first child but the first in her second marriage and my niece came after three years of series of unsuccessful pregnancies.

Today, my niece is no more.  Nothing we attempt can bring her back. We are comforting my sister. We are convincing my mother to not focalised on the fact that the incident occurred in her home.

The doses of why and pain within my family at the moment increased my understanding that we MUST avoid posing questions of ‘why’ to God.

Pain is pain. Death is death. Every individual on this earth has something that hurt. People die 24 hours in 7 days and as the same time somewhere every minute is a child being born. The reality is that death is no respecter of anyone; irrespective of age, skin colour, status, race or language.

I believe instead of drenching and drowning in our pain and endless questions of , “Why God?”, instead we should praise the Lord. It may be hard to sing and thank Him, but that was exactly what I did few hours after I hear the bad news. From my phone, I listened and sang along to worship songs.

In spite of my sorrow and losses, in spite of my doses of pain and why; those songs helped me find comfort and reassurance in the Lord. No matter what we are going through, God’s love for us is eternal and He alone has the complete explication of all we are going through, and He will bring us out of the situation.

It is for the sole reason we must not pose Him any question. Simply praise Him!

Author:

Princess Ayelotan is a writer/poet, feminist and independent researcher. Her scholarly interest ranges widely, from — Creative Writing related to Gender issues; — Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG), — Rape as a weapon of war, — Violence against disabled women, — Child Sexual Exploitation : e.g. child prostitution and trafficking, — Female economic empowerment — Activism.

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