“ I am no longer worthy to be called your son; [just] make me like one of your hired servants. So he got up and came to his [own] father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was moved with pity and tenderness [for him]; and he ran and embraced him and kissed him [[d] fervently]. [Luke 15:19-20 AMP]
My mother loves my younger brother beyond our imagination. In a family of six children (four girls & two boys), my brother occupies the third position. As the first son, there were times that I think that our mother doted too much on him than she should have with her second son that is the last child.
Months ago, mother gave him her only car. I was not told. There was impossible I must find out because I gave her that car for her personal use and not for my brother. As young as he is, he is already a father of four daughters. Of course, if only he would halt there as he still wants to get a son. It was but a few days I discovered that the car had been in his custody. I knew my brother well enough to realise that he’d manipulate her into passing the car to him. He was just that way. And I found solace in the knowledge that things like this are happening everywhere. Everyone has a story to tell. What is different is the degree to which we all have people like this in our families. And also how much they do attempt to overstretch the limits that we give to them.
Upon learning that, my first sets of questions were, “why would she do that?” “What was she thinking?” I mean that in her old age (in her early sixties) she prefers to walk around, travels a long distance to markets for her trading, and hops on commuter buses to go wherever she wants. Meanwhile, my brother got the opportunity to drive the car the way he wants, how he wants it and carries his friends to parties with it.
Later reactions were the language of anger, confusion, and mixed feelings. There was that sudden need to pick the phone and express my profound feelings for my mother. Plus that, I wanted my brother to know he’d do little to cater for our mother since he started earing an income. He seldom calls her to ask after health. For months he would not show at mother’s place even when we heard he’d visit his mother-in-law countless times. We see him around her when he needs to get something from her.
In spite of the car gift he got from her my younger brother neither visited nor phoned our mother to greet her during this last festive seasons. Nothing. Because I was unaware, in my ignorant I kept mixing things up such as saying perhaps he was not in town or busy or this or that. All I wanted and tried so hard was to make sure that mother is happy within the last week.
Often we wondered why a parent would sacrifice lots of things for a child who does not bother about him or her. That nonchalant child; seems like an unattainable illusion that the parent aggrandizes within the imaginary space. That child is the mirror to nothingness. That child is vicious and would not mind knocking heads together in his bids to have what he wants.
Maybe on this we might as well go back to take a look at how God deals with us. Why on earth would God rejected Esau and played favoritism when it comes to Jacob [Romans 9:13 AMP]? What was all so special about this Jacobs that Esau, his brother lacked? Is God involved in the business of favouritism?
Just remember the story of the prodigal son? His actions were unsuitable, undignified and unforgivable. Yet his father opened his arms as well as his heart to receive back his absent son into the family. A parent’s feeling superseded the power of censure. I bet we never stop codifying why certain members of our family found favour more than we do even though they do not deserve compassion. The more we try to unearth the reasons the more we discovered nothing. This tends to be because perhaps there is nothing to figure out. Maybe things are but made to be that way. In this context, we might refocus our thoughts towards God and His ways of distributing blessings. Do I develop hatred for my brother because he did the unthinkable by depriving our mother of her car? Not at all. The truth is; he is still my brother irrespective of what he did.
Like our parents, understanding why God favour one person over the others is incomprehensible. Since we understood that we cannot unravel the mysteries behind our Father’s preferential treatment. Then let us take comfort in the fact that He would never abandon us in all situations (Deuteronomy 31:6).
May our Almighty Jehovah showers us with His uncommon favour in Jesus name, Amen.