Throughout his lifetime, his father has been a pain and the cause of his death. Jonathan did not deserve to die when it happened. If Saul were not standing in his way, Jonathan would have lived. The truth is, many people do not deserve to be parents, but they don’t want to accept this reality. The desire to have a child or more, supersede the honest acknowledgement of the incapacity to be a parent.
Saul was only interested in winning the war and not in the well-being of his son or his soldiers who had to fight with emptied stomachs. Parenthood demands to be there, even when being there is impossible. This is because raising a child is a full-time job. It is not the job of the school teachers to do the role of the parents. It is not the duty of the church to be the nanny for the child. To be a mother is to be a true mother, and this is vice versa for the father. When a government decides everyone can get free access to medically assisted IVF to have children, they ignore the aftermath and the years of raising these children. How many adults are psychologically and emotionally stable to be parents?
Therefore, please, do not attempt to have any children or adopt any of you are incapable of accepting any responsibility of parenthood. There is nothing that hurt God most than abandoning one’s child as we have seen in the case of Hagar (Genesis 21:17).
Ehiyeh-Sh’Ehiyeh 