How Not To Be A Parent

“Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” (Deuteronomy 11:19)

Adolescence stage remains a challenging one. It serves as a crossroad from childhood into adulthood. It is an intersection bridge that carries the child up to that level of maturity. And to reach that path where that child is in a position to handle his thoughts, dreams and ideas without depending on his parents. He would have to have a stopover or many stopovers at this point known as pubescence phase. This is a stage where he thinks he knows better than his parents when in fact he was just struggling with his delusions.

In general, it is a critical period because this is where the child is likely to form a life will stay with him for the rest of his life. If he chooses the positive pathway, this will prove beneficial not just to him but also to those in his world. If he messes up his life in his teenage years, there are little chances of recovering those lost moments. Thank God for His mercies and for giving second chances to many wayward adolescents to make restitution. We appreciate the fact that many of us can prove that the grace of our Lord gave us the privileged to encounter salvation.

We might wonder why so many Christians and non-Christians alike, choose to have children when they knew that they are not in a position to raise them. Often we hear some complaining that they committed an error. “Oh, it was a mistake”, or “oh, we didn’t plan having one but he just came into our lives and we cannot throw him away.”

Of course, it is an abomination to throw away a child! That is a straightforward sin! But it is likewise a sin to bring a child into this world and neglect parental care.

Perhaps it is high time we understood that our children DID not beg us to bring them into this world. They choose to come through us because they believe in us, because they love us, and because they want to be a part of our lives. They would have been gone with someone else and left us barren. Yet they choose us to create destiny as a family.

I would like us to keep in mind the story of Hagar from Genesis; Chapters 16 to 21. God would not let Abraham ignore his paternal duties Ishmael. It is not because Sarah wants the child out of the way that the innocent child will suffer. God ensured that Abraham faces his responsibilities. After all, Abraham is the Ishmael’s biological father and no matter the circumstances. He must not shy away from his duties.

Failing to take care of our children brings lots of problems to us. These may surface earlier or in the future. Nonetheless, the reality is we cannot escape dealing with the consequences. Our children grow up to become what we set them out to become. They are like plants that can either turns to big fruitful and healthy trees, or they withered.

We have choices. In fact, we have TWO choices. We can go on to have children that we will commit ourselves to raise without us fleeing our parental responsibilities. Or we can opt not to have any and not bring the curses of God over our heads for abandoning these children when they need us.

May God help us to make the right choice in Jesus name, Amen.

Published by Ehiyeh-sh’Ehiyeh

“Once I was young, and now I am old. Yet I have never seen the godly abandoned or their children begging for bread.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭37:25‬ ‭

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