“Can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals and his feet not be burned?” (Proverbs 6: 27-28)
When Esau discovered that his twin brother had deceived him, he knew that Jacob couldn’t have succeeded in doing this alone. Esau knew his brother’s weakness. He knew Jacob got help from Rebecca, their mother. Esau was stronger while Jacob was soft and tender. Esau was a man of the field while Jacob preferred to stay close to home. Just like normal twins the differences between these two were very outstanding. However it was not mentioned anywhere in the bible that Esau confronted their mother after the ‘blessing’ incident. He knew he dared not attack Rebecca.
Sarah understood the power of divine covenant when she insisted that her son, Isaac, must be the heir and not Ishmael. To ensure Isaac attained this position, Sarah drove Hagar and her son away.
Hannah knew the abundance of blessing behind fulfilling one’s oaths. She did not hesitated to give Samuel away to God under the custody of Prophet Eli. It was a determined move that earned her other biological children.
The rich Shunammite woman failed to accept defeat on her son’s death when she saddled her horse, and went in search of Prophet Elisha. She trusted God and got her son back, alive.
Bathsheba fought non-stop to secure her son’s position on the throne of Israel. Without her fierce efforts in getting access to the old King David, other children from the other wives would have succeeded the dying king.
Why am I citing all these examples?
If you search the bible from Genesis through revelation you will discover amazing histories of warrior-mothers. You will gradually come to understand that that woman in your life, I mean your mother, is not just there to as the baby-machine that produced you.
If you have not come to accept that your mother is more that she is to you, or that she is bigger than the way you look at her, or that she is a phenomena then I implore you to start now. She is there because she’s the one chosen to bring you into this world.
One of my deepest observations about mothers emerged from watching the relationship among men and their mothers. Have you not noticed how attached they are? That a man is married does not mean he will forget his mother. Men are so attached to their mothers, to that point that they often have conflicts with their wives.
The way you treat your mother will result in the way your life will be. It does not matter if she’s the worse mother on earth. If does not matter if she is a drunk, a prostitute, a drug addict or whatever. It does not matter if she’s too hard on you. It is not your role to condemn her. You can flee from her. You can dislike her. You can call her a witch who is blocking your progress. You can abuse her. You can even beat her up.
BUT remember, life is all about this = ‘WHAT GOES ROUND, COMES ROUND.’
Do not be shock when your children turn up as terrible criminals and send you to your earliest grave. There is no what if. The law of the Lord is clear and direct. In His ministry on earth, Jesus Christ never shouted on his mother. He never insulted her. He never hit her. He never looked down on her. Mary was there for him all the times.
Do not be a saint in your church and be a demon to your mother at home. Do not think you can be a renowned counsellor or a celebrity in your society while you are making life miserable for your mother. Do not be so ashamed of presenting your mother to your circle of friends and colleagues. Tell me, a pastor who told you that your mother is a witch and instructed you to run away from her, have you checked how the Pastor’s personal relationship is with his own mother?
For you to have peace with God, for you to have durable successes, for you to be the Christian that God has called you to be, for you to have your prayers answered without any hindrances, for you to look up boldly to your own child and give him instruction without him disobeying or causing you eternal agonies, then go and make peace with your mother.
Let me ask you = is your mother your best friend? Is she your confidant? Or is she your dustbin? Is she your broom and slippers? Is she your invaluable treasure?